Saturday, May 9, 2009

Happy Mother's Day

Happy Mother's Day to all.

This is now a day that will be so very different from all that have come before. For this is the first Mother's Day without my Mom. Last Mother's Day she was still with us, although in the hospital. I still find it difficult. I will go to phone her, which I did almost every day for years, and then realize I can't. Some days are harder than others. I am sure there are others who experience the same emotions.

I found a book shortly after her death that has helped: "Finding Your Way After Your Parent Dies", by Richard Gilbert. One of the exercises was to start compiling a list of "Things I want to Remember About Mom". I am still adding to that list!

I just found another book at a book sale - "Motherless Daughters" by Hope Edelman. I haven't started reading seriously but it looks like it will be a healing book.

One description of the book on the back cover really says it all: "How to understand grief: not as a passage, but as an ongoing journey." An apt description. It is really not something you recover from, but something you move through.

But Mother's Day is also a time to celebrate our ownselves as mothers. I am proud of my children and step-children. Our grandchildren now add to that expanding circle of love. Seeing them, watching them grow is a blessing.

I wish everyone a Happy Mother's Day. May love fill your day.


mel said...

Have a blessed Mother's day....I wish you strength and healing on your journey...

~in Love and Light~

Beverley Baird said...

Thanks Mel - I appreciate your wishes and blessing.

Leone said...

Hi Bev. My mother left us 15 years ago and I still miss her and sometimes dream about her. You're right that we never really get over it but acceptance comes and life goes on. Happy Mother's day to you.

Leone said...

I meant to say thank you for your comments on my Blog it was nice to have a visitor.

Genie Sea said...

Happy Mother's Day Bev.

I can empathize with you. This is my second year without my mom, and this day now carries a sadness. But this year is a little less sad than last, as the grief is making way to happy memories like the sun peaking through the clouds. Hugs.

Elizabeth Golden said...

I am so sorry to hear of your loss. I can't imagine not having my mom. Can't even go there. I am sure you carry her with you everywhere in more ways than you realize. The legacy of our mother's is so great. So Happy Mother's day to you! and I am sure you have honored your mother every day.

Beverley Baird said...

Thank you all for your kindness. Honouring our moms is something we can do every day and I do remember my Mom every day.
Happy Mother's Day Leone, Genie and Elizabeth.

jerilyn said...

Happy Mother's Day Mom!!!
I miss grandma every day... I still can't believe it's been a year. She was a great woman.
I love you, and I'm proud you are my mom.
Love you tons!!! :)

Elizabeth Golden said...

Hey Bev I couldn't find an email addy for you. I have LOVE posted on Feb.15,2009 if you need. I can't wait to see what you do with the words.

Leah said...

a happy belated mother's day to you! i'm sorry about the loss of your mom, but i love how you are keeping a list of wonderful things to remember about her. what a wonderfully healing thing to do.